Something that unfortunately very often damages romantic relationships is when a man is in his pasive mode relative to his life and to the woman in his life.
Passiveness does really not benefit the physical male in their romantic relationships.
( Definition of passiveness: the trait of remaining inactive; a lack of initiative )
Male passivity especially does not benefit women in the relationship.
An example of a passive man:
My wife is unhappy with me.
I see she is unhappy with me.
But I will keep doing what I am doing and I am not really going to put any energy or action in changing anything.
So many men ( especially nowadays, when masculinity has been stripped off them ) are unfortunately falling into that passive pattern, which is a recipe for hell in relationships.
In doing so – in not being active – a man actually does not provide any leadership or any containment for the woman in his life.
As a result, she feels like all the pressure is on her.
When the female feels all the pressure is on her and that she has no containment, she can’t be soft.
She is not able to relax in her femininity.
She feels she has to take on the masculine, dominant role.
She becomes armoured.
All the tissus of the female body become armoured.
A woman starts to feel she has to lead everything.
Essentially, her nervous system upregulates, which is never a good thing for a woman.
This uptight female is now constantly feeling she needs to control everything.
Instead of being able to nurture her softness, which is one of the most important qualities of the woman.
~ Teal Swan