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Beautiful Art of Softening Women’s Retreat Istria, Croatia – June 1st to June 7th 2023
Art credit: Makenzi Jones Nurturing softness for women is one of our most important feminine qualities. When we step into our softness we are opening our doors to love, acceptance, openness and caring. We then can get to feel our full power and strength, and to feel at peace. Our feminine yin energy stands for […]
A Very Dangerous Lie About “Happy” Long-Term Couples
How many times have you heard: “Listen to them, they’ve been together for 10+ years, they’ll tell you the secret to a healthy and successful relationship. If someone knows, they sure do!” I know I have heard this myself at least a zillion times. And unfortunately, for a very long time, I actually deeply believed […]
Music is The Therapy and The Medicine
I got goose bumps…. I cried. I sang my heart out. I felt fucking angry! I smiled. I felt weak. I felt ON The TOP of The WORLD…!!!! I jumped and I danced with this song on repeeeeaaaat…. I felt Ren. I felt for Ren. I felt for human beings. This awesome, super powerful, beautifully, […]
Leaving 2022 ( and some years before… )
“Last year, when I first met you, you only just arrived from Australia, you were single and lived in rented apartment. A year later, you live in your dream house in the nature and you are with a beautiful partner and gorgeous little stepdaughter,” said a friend of mine the other day. It took a […]
Truth vs Illusion
” As people, we have a VERY complicated relationship with the truth. Very few of us actually WANT it, no matter what we might say to the contrary. Very few of us truly see The Actual Value of Truth. Often, those of us who are resistant to the truth also have a very hard time […]
Keys of My House
I am pinching myself in disbelief, holding these two keys in my hand. My life long dream has come true. I have built a house. I have my HOME. When I look back, I see a skinny little girl who has spent her early childhood in orphanage and foster care. A homeless, powerless, scared, helpless, […]
Forgiveness by Jeff Brown
FORGIVENESS is not a concept. It’s a process. And, if you choose not to forgive at the end of that process, it doesn’t mean that you are unhealed. It doesn’t mean that you are a lesser human. It doesn’t mean you are not spiritual or evolved. It doesn’t mean you will come back in the […]
Childhood trauma and celebrities
The world is currently following daily live entertainment from the US court between two very traumatised adult-child celebrities who clearly still very much suffer from deep unhealed childhood trauma. It’s sad to be reminded that we live in the world where these celebrities are at the top of our broken society. They are our heroes, […]
Physical Exercise is The Medicine
It’s been about 7 years since I’ve last hit the gym. Gyms have never been my favourite places, even when I was working there as a Personal Trainer over a decade ago. I have always preferred outdoor exercise in a beautiful nature, breathing a fresh air. It’s interesting how our priorities, interests and motivation can […]
GoodBye 2016 – and THANK YOU!
2016. has, by far, been the most Interesting Year for me in last 18 years. A year of beautiful big highs and deep dark lows, with loads of severe thunderstorms and lightning followed by a swirly blue skies and fluffy white clouds… 🙂 Most of the year felt like being on a constant emotional roller […]
Orphan’s Message On Mother’s Day
It’s Mother’s Day tomorrow. A day which, for some of us, is another painful reminder of a deep and special connection that no one else can have with us but our MUM – and which sadly some of us have never ever experienced or have lost forever. This year I am tired […]
Healing Alone Doesn’t Work
“We are not capable of healing in isolation. We need other people. We are hurt in relationships and we heal in relationships. Our brain and nervous system are not isolated, but interconnected and social. At our core, we are social beings who regulate through CONNECTION with others. Being comfortable in your […]
Relationships and Resistance
In one of my couple counselling sessions yesterday one of the partners never showed up. Hours later, I received an apology from the partner who didn’t show up with a valid reason – he slept through his alarm and didn’t wake up for the session. Talking with his partner, it was evident they […]
How To Beat Christmas Loneliness
This year more than any year before, even more people will sadly spend Christmas alone. But long before dreaded 2020, we’ve had a global epidemic happening in most of the Western world, epidemic called loneliness. Loneliness ( together with mental health issues ) keeps being one of the biggest secrets in our society, […]
Emotional Intimacy in Relationships
We can DO things with our partners, we can go, travel, see places together, we can chit chat daily about many things, we can be affectionate, have sex, even feel we are making love – without a true deep emotional intimacy. A deep emotional intimacy between two people requires regularly taking a space and […]
If You Are Going To Try, Go All The Way – Charles Bukowski
If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. If you’re going to try, go all the way. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs and maybe your mind. Go all the way. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean […]
Emotional Incest
In one of my sessions today I had a single mum who thought having her 9 years old son next to her in the session is OK as ‘they don’t have any secrets’ and she ‘as a conscious parent shares everything with him’. I tried explaining how ‘sharing everything with children’ might not be […]
Boundaries – Say NO When You Mean It
I DON’T KNOW. Do you often hear yourself saying: “I don’t know”? “I can’t tell”? “I am unsure how I am feeling about xyz”? “I am confused”? “I don’t know” must be one of the biggest lies throughout our life we tell ourselves and others. Deep inside, we always DO know […]
R U OK DAY
Today is apparently ‘Are you OK? day’. It makes me so sad that humans need to have a day to ask one another if they are OK. What has this world come to? I will never forget how shocked I was, moving abroad for the first time, almost 20 years ago, when […]
Angelica’s COVID-19 Survival Tool Kit
ANGELICA’S COVID-19 SURVIVAL TOOL KIT PHYSICAL Outdoor Exercise ( beach, park, forrest, mountain, street etc. ): Running Jogging ( Brisk ) Walking Hill walking Swimming Biking Rollerblading Skateboarding Tree climbing Rope skipping Push ups Pull ups Chin ups Tricep dips Squats Lunges Plank TRX training Martial arts Slacklining Indoor Exercise: Dancing […]
Paradigm Shift
It’s my birthday today. In this coronavirus worldwide madness, my ‘special day’ doesn’t mean much, even to me. I feel blessed to be alive and well. Although just a couple of days ago, I have for the first time in my life started asking myself: “What’s the point of life spent in this […]
Choose Love, Not Fear
A week ago I have decided to go on a four day hiking&camping trip on my own. The first thing my husband said was: “Alone?” “Are you sure?” “I don’t know if it’s safe?” “Won’t you be scared?” Just over a year ago my husband did the same trek alone and was admired […]
What’s Your Morning Ritual?
Moving to my new home in Perth, I recently discovered I haven’t had a ‘stable and permanent’ home for almost four years. It’s been a beautiful, super rich, fulfilling and intense adventure traveling around the world, learning about new cultures and way of living, new languages and all sorts of different cultural […]
What Do You Feel You Deserve?
If years ago I was told I would be working online with the clients worldwide, and those people would receive help and guidance whilst lying down on their sofas and beds, sitting in their offices, cars, in the nature, etc., I wouldn’t have believed it. As the only ‘normal’ way at the time […]
Happy New Year
My dearest soul family, At the end of another year, I would like to express my deepest gratitude for having you in my life. THANK YOU so much for your time and energy invested in a deep self work. THANK YOU for your commitment to resolving your past wounds and becoming better […]
How To Build An Emotional Bond With Your Child
I had a conversation with a single mum whose daughter is 15 years old. She has separated from her husband just after giving birth to their daughter, has never remarried and has raised their child on her own. When I asked how her daughter coped without the father, she answered that as her daughter […]
Is Verbal Abuse Ever OK?
My husband and me have recently agreed we won’t shout, raise our voices at each other nor use any profanity in our marriage. We have made a decision to forever stop with our yelling, screaming and cursing. We have thankfully realized it is the time to work on taming our egos during our […]
Being An Immigrant
This sculpture resonates deeply with me: It’s been 20 years for me living abroad. These two decades were filled with fun and adventures, developing new skills, learning about new cultures, adapting to their values and beliefs, learning new languages, pushing myself out of my comfort zone, learning new cuisines, gaining different point […]
Surviving A Car Crush
Last weekend I have experienced something very close to a near death experience. My husband and I survived 110 km/h car crash on the highway and both walked away without a scratch. Police and everyone else said we were super lucky because we could have been killed. I firmly believe these kind […]
Why Are We Shamed For Having ‘High Expectations’?
Today I felt stuck with my ‘high expectations’. I do understand how at times it can be easier to have lower expectations but I can’t seem to lower mine. Lowering my standards for me means being unhappy, miserable, stuck and dead inside. It means faking it. Pretending I don’t need and […]
It’s Easy For You
My life used to be full of struggle, loss, pain and loneliness. Most nights in my childhood I have fallen asleep in tears. I suffered enormously with anxiety, social anxiety, insomnia and all sorts of sleep disorders, eating disorders, excess body weight, body image disorders, self-esteem issues, victim and borderline personality disorder, heart palpitations, […]
No One Cares About You
Talking with my husband about social anxiety, it dawned on me – if more people in this world would more often hear these three words: No One Cares – there could be less social anxiety, self esteem issues and all sorts of destructive behaviours, obsessive compulsive disorders, eating disorders, social phobias, body dysmorphic disorders, workaholism, […]
Feeling Free Under the Veil
I just remembered how whilst living in the Middle East, I liked the occasional experience of wearing a local women’s wear. While at first it felt weird being almost invisible, walking around as a covered woman also felt super liberating. I felt I can be any woman. And any woman can be […]
Death, Loss And Grieving
A powerful session with a client whose mother passed away brought loads of stuff about death and grieving for me. Yesterday, for the first time in my life, I have realised that, by the age of 12, I have lost my biological dad, my foster dad, and the only grandad I knew – I […]
Explore Your Core Values – Tap Into Your Inner Potential
Our ( core ) values define who We Are. They make our inner POTENTIAL. Our values don’t change much since our childhood, but we learn to suppress and deny them, conforming to our family / school / church / work / system beliefs. How to find your life’s direction, unlock your potential, […]
Make A Use Of Your Physical Body
It’s getting cold, windy and rainy in our wintery Southern Hemisphere so this morning I opted to work out at home with my good old buddy TRX💪 Back in the day, for me as a young personal trainer, my focus was purely on the physical body. Until I got sick and tired […]
Settling In A New Place
Back home in Australia. Still feels surreal when I hear myself saying it. This magical far away continent is my home now. For anyone who is currently going through a transition, moving house, immigrating, settling in a new place – even if it’s ‘only’ a new town, a city near by […]
Is Being Married A Sign Of Success?
Why is getting married seen as a sign of our Success? Since a public announcement of my wedding, I have received tons of beautiful loving congratulations messages. In some I got told my marriage is giving so much hope and inspiration to my single friends and acquaintances. I found that interesting. […]
Loneliness
I was shocked on my trip to Europe to find out I was, for last few months, starved for a physical interaction with my loved ones. Moving all the way to Australia and then moving from my home, Perth, to a new city, getting married, and being so busy with my new life and […]
Conscious Relationships by Sean Christopher
We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn’t working. People are unsatisfied in love; people don’t know how to make relationships work. And, believe it or not, this isn’t a bad thing. Because when systems break-down, that’s when they change. I […]
Invest In YOURSELF
Helping people around the world with their most important life investments for almost two decades now I kept hearing how that takes too much money and / or time. Ironically, in most cases, my regular ongoing clients seemed to have less time and money than the ones looking for a cheap shortcuts. Lack […]
No One And Nothing Can Help Me
Too often, too many people get disappointed and even depressed, trying out different therapy, healing, counselling, coaching and other healing tools and modalities but feeling like ‘Nothing ever works’ for them. Unfortunately – Very Few people out there actually put in the WORK, TIME and MONEY necessary for their healing. Let us Please […]
Christmas – The Most Depressing Holiday Of The Year
“Woohoo, can you believe it, Christmas is coming!?!” “What are you doing for Christmas?” “I am going home to visit my folks, and you?” …….It’s been well over twenty years for me dreading to hear these exciting Christmas questions, year after year… And too often summer wasn’t even properly finished when […]
How ‘Follow Your Joy’ ALWAYS Works
Reading a blog post this morning about how following your joy doesn’t always work, inspired me to write my own one – how it DOES work. Love when I get fired up! Or shall I say – Joyous?! Following Your Joy ALWAYS Works. Just that too often we get caught up in our minds […]
What Is Complex Trauma And Why It Can’t Be Resolved In One Session
A few years ago, I introduced a type of trauma healing modality known as the Completion process to a client of mine. She was convinced beyond doubt that this was the ideal treatment for her. After all, this treatment was perfect for healing childhood trauma and had the capability to transform her life for good. And […]
Trust Your Heart
This post is for all my UAE friends who feel stuck in golden prison there and are afraid to leave – to hopefully give them strength, power and encouragement – to follow their HEART. Don’t get me wrong when I say ‘golden prison’ as I’ve lived in Dubai for almost 11 years and first hated […]
Get Out Of the War Zone First
I might have ‘mentioned’ this already but after my last session with the client, I feel a need to say it again: Healing yourself – when you are in the middle of the War Zone – DOES NOT WORK! So instead of battling ( with your – PARTNER who doesn’t love you / doesn’t show […]
What is Shadow Work?
“All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are. “( Robin Williams ) When, at the end of his life, Carl Jung was asked if there was a hope for humanity, his answer was:“ Only if enough individuals on […]
Shadow Work Or Vipassana Meditation?
I was inspired to write this post after watching a short video of a young man who shared his experience of 10 days of vipassana meditation. Don’t get me wrong, I actually want to try it too, so this is Not a post against vipassana meditation. 😉 Man’s interpretation of his ‘negative’ emotions in the […]
Meditation – The Greatest Escape Disease Of Our Time
Meditation has become the greatest escape disease of our time. How many of you have tried connecting with people who religiously meditate, and felt it would be easier to emotionally connect with the robots? It saddens me to see so many people trying to kill that which is the most beautiful human thing in them, […]
The Beauty Of Perseverance
I’ve just had AN AMAZING lesson from a client of mine on PERSEVERANCE. Just to be able to get in touch with me and successfully go through our online session today, that young woman has, in last couple of weeks, moved mountains. She has never even once thought of giving up and was Super […]
Anger, Women, and Love
“…..I felt a strong sensation in my belly connected with shame. I had made the expression of volatile & wild emotions so unacceptable that I was struggling with my own expression of engaging with Kali, judging it as ridiculous. I had made these emotions so unacceptable in me that I was selecting partners to manifest […]
‘I Can’t Remember My Childhood’
For everyone who is experiencing pain in their everyday life and cannot remember their childhood – please know you Don’t need to Consciously Remember anything in order to HEAL and feel better. Most of us with a complex childhood trauma don’t actually consciously remember much from our childhood. Actually all people have memories from their […]
Dare To Be HUMAN
Dare to be Brave. Dare to be Authentic. Dare to Feel, Embrace and Release All of your Emotions. Dare to be HUMAN.
You Are An Abundance
I had an amazing consultation session with a beautiful man in a need of emotional healing who can’t afford my fees. We have both felt a strong click – we KNEW we ought to work together – it’s just meant To Be. And guess what – when that same man at the end offered to […]
GoodBye 2017 and – THANK YOU!
Exactly two years ago today I was violently sick. I have spent Christmas and New Year at home in my bed, feeling sorry for myself. That was also a period of my life when I suffered with so much anxiety connected to my upcoming life transformation. Of course, at the time, I wasn’t even mildly […]
How To Gain Freedom From Our Obsession With Possessions
A serious human disease – An Obsession with our Possessions 😛 When two years ago I decided to sell and get rid of Everything in a comfortable vila in Dubai where I lived for 11 years, the main question I got asked was: “But – won’t you miss Your Stuff?!?!?” I […]
What is Trauma and How Can We Heal It?
In Wikipedia we can read: “ In psychology, TRAUMA is a type of damage to the psyche that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. “ Trauma is the main thing preventing us from living a healthy and happy life. It is an experience that was extremely stressful or unpleasant for us and […]
What’s Your Experience of Life?
Having a wisdom moment this morning 🤓: Life is a combo of CHOICES we make on our journey, COURAGE and PERSEVERANCE to follow our gut no matter what, and pinch of LUCK in all that. Conquer your mountain! 🙂
I Say YES!!! To An Open Heart
How amazing is to finally – FEEL – ” back home “, where there is a gorgeous blue sky with all the pretty colours and clouds, and most beautiful greenery, mountains, sea and the islands everywhere I look at…:-) And where I don’t feel lonely, abandon or misunderstood anymore, where I daily meet, connect, feel, […]
What Do You Need Now?
When did you last ask yourself : ‘What do I need? What in this moment I need the most?’ When did you last let yourself and your loved ones – inside and tell them what your needs are? When did you last ask your partner, family member, friend or a colleague: ‘What do YOU need […]
THANK YOU letter to MEN
In just a few short months my work with Completion Process ( emotional trauma healing process ) has brought to me many male clients. At least 60% of my private clients and the ones who attend my workshops at the moment are MEN. At first I wasn’t sure what to think of that :p so […]
Completing The Puzzle….
After too many weeks on my sabbatical journey around the world, my little soul is finally at home catching up on some well needed rest. It’s time for some writing and sharing… 🙂 In between eating paellas, attending some vigorous language trainings, traveling around rainy, cold, miserable Spain and sipping green tea whilst admiring gorgeous […]
Is The Silence a Relationship Killer?
While SILENCE can be golden, it is also – a Real Relationship KILLER. Very often silence leads to misunderstandings, resentment, despair, depression… Verbal communication is EXTREMELY important in our daily connection and interaction with the others. With the words we can gain so much clarity, understanding, forgiveness… We can emotionally connect one to another, we […]
Letter To My 18 Years Old Self
What would my 18 years old self say seeing me today, I often wonder 😀 A few weeks ago I went to my 20 years high school reunion. TWENTY YEARS!? Where did those years go? I can’t believe I am about to hit big 40 in a few years…. :p It was great to catch […]
What’s Your Biggest Gift?
It took me 30+ years to be able to understand this quote and LIVE it. For many years I have struggled with the low self-esteem, weight gain, extreme physical and emotional pain, sugar addiction, depression, panic attacks, insomnia, isolation, loneliness, abandonment, anger bursts, AND so on…………………………………………………………………………… Once I understood, admitted and accepted my struggles, once […]
Understanding The Completion Process
What is Completion Process? I hope you can find your answer in this post! 🙂 It’s so beautiful to wake up and read this ‘short’ feedback on the work I do with so much love. And I feel so blessed to be able to help every soul which the Universe sends my way… THANK YOU IVA! […]
You are NOT “Crazy”
I’m SO glad to see more and more people seeking help with their “mental health”. The bullies ( those “without a problem” ) are NOT so cool anymore as we’re all getting to learn – they are The Real Crazies… I would like to invite you all – celebrate your ‘sensitivities’, celebrate ALL your feelings […]
Spiritual Bullshit
Living at the spiritual retreat center is, to say the least, a very interesting spiritual experience. :p Talking to a friend here last night we have both noticed how little authenticity there is within the spiritual community in general. Spiritual retreat centers around the world have an open door policy to hard core denial and […]
Depression: You Are NOT Alone
If you are struggling with DEPRESSION, feelings of DESPAIR to the point of considering SUICIDE or you are struggling to resolve ANY other painful emotional cycle, this is a MUST WATCH: Topic I have been thinking, feeling and talking about this week A LOT. About our lack of understanding and acceptance of our human pain. And about lack of […]
Inner Child Work
As I often get asked what inner child work is, how it works and what are the benefits, I decided to write about it. And yep – that sad, scared, shy, boy-like kid on the pic is me…… No matter who we are and how […]
Why Are You Keeping Yourself Small?
A breakfast conversation this morning with one of the friends I met in the retreat I am staying at, made me really sad. And angry. This beautiful woman who is ‘in her spare time’ a very talented writer, isn’t actively searching to publish her writings. She is even hiding it from her friends and family […]
Life is a One Big Sabbatical
After 2.5 months of feeling right at home on Pashman, tomorrow morning I will be waving goodbye to this gorgeous island, all the glorious nature and its beautiful people… Don’t think I’ll get too depressed as next on my list is island Krk: LIFE IS INDEED A ONE BIG SABBATICAL – WHEN YOU WAKE UP. […]
Our human emotional healing is a continuous life long process.
A proper deep healing or our core wounds can truly start only when we are able to feel deep inside of ourselves, when we can allow another person to help us to discover, see, hear and feel all the suppressed and denied aspects of ourselves, when we can allow our conscious and subconscious beliefs to be challenged
One of the main causes of our emotional trauma isn’t only what happened to us when we were very little and very helpless, but also the fact we have repeatedly suffered alone, without anyone’s help, support, recognition, trust and love.