I DON’T KNOW.
Do you often hear yourself saying:
“I don’t know”?
“I can’t tell”?
“I am unsure how I am feeling about xyz”?
“I am confused”?
“I don’t know” must be one of the biggest lies throughout our life we tell ourselves and others.
Deep inside, we always DO know what we like, what we don’t like, what we want and don’t want, what we need and don’t need.
When the answer is clear, direct, positive and strong: YES! we then have no problem to honour that truth, our values, our needs and say “Yes! I know, I want, I need, I like this…”
“I don’t know” always means NO ( I don’t want / need xyz ).
Many people too often feel unsafe to say how they really feel when they don’t want, like, need something offered or presented to them.
They feel afraid, ashamed or guilty for setting neccessary boundaries for themselves.
Boundaries mean standing up for yourself and loving yourself in a clear communication with others, which is critical component in creating healthy relationships.
So the next time you hear yourself saying: “I don’t know” – pause, go deep inside, breathe and feel what your gut, your soul, your inner child, what the core of your being needs and – honour it.
And then courageously step in your god given power and say NO when you mean it.
Conquer your mountain!