A Very Dangerous Lie About “Happy” Long-Term Couples

How many times have you heard:   “Listen to them, they’ve been together for 10+ years, they’ll tell you the secret to a healthy and successful relationship. If someone knows, they sure do!” I know I have heard this myself at least a zillion times.  And unfortunately, for a very long time, I actually deeply believed […]

Truth vs Illusion

” As people, we have a VERY complicated relationship with the truth.  Very few of us actually WANT it, no matter what we might say to the contrary. Very few of us truly see The Actual Value of Truth. Often, those of us who are resistant to the truth also have a very hard time […]

Healing Alone Doesn’t Work

  “We are not capable of healing in isolation. We need other people. We are hurt in relationships and we heal in relationships.   Our brain and nervous system are not isolated, but interconnected and social.   At our core, we are social beings who regulate through CONNECTION with others.   Being comfortable in your […]

Relationships and Resistance

In one of my couple counselling sessions yesterday one of the partners never showed up.   Hours later, I received an apology from the partner who didn’t show up with a valid reason – he slept through his alarm and didn’t wake up for the session.   Talking with his partner, it was evident they […]