A Very Dangerous Lie About “Happy” Long-Term Couples

How many times have you heard:   “Listen to them, they’ve been together for 10+ years, they’ll tell you the secret to a healthy and successful relationship. If someone knows, they sure do!” I know I have heard this myself at least a zillion times.  And unfortunately, for a very long time, I actually deeply believed […]

Truth vs Illusion

” As people, we have a VERY complicated relationship with the truth.  Very few of us actually WANT it, no matter what we might say to the contrary. Very few of us truly see The Actual Value of Truth. Often, those of us who are resistant to the truth also have a very hard time […]

Boundaries – Say NO When You Mean It

I DON’T KNOW.   Do you often hear yourself saying: “I don’t know”? “I can’t tell”? “I am unsure how I am feeling about xyz”? “I am confused”?     “I don’t know” must be one of the biggest lies throughout our life we tell ourselves and others.   Deep inside, we always DO know […]


Today is apparently ‘Are you OK? day’.   It makes me so sad that humans need to have a day to ask one another if they are OK. What has this world come to?     I will never forget how shocked I was, moving abroad for the first time, almost 20 years ago, when […]