Angelica Horvatic

Worldwide Trauma Recovery Practitioner

Everything feels like an attack and you are exhausted.

Many of us believe that Being Imperfect or Making Mistakes is Shameful.

This comes from growing up in a home with extremely strict or critical parents or parents who were distant and detached.

Without Emotional Attunement as children we start to believe we are defective.

That if anyone sees us, they will reject us.

And we can become highly sensitive and percepive Everything as Criticism.

This makes romantic relationships, family and work relationships difficult because we can have people feeling like they are walking on eggshells around us


This is Exhausting.

And we start to become Very Distant or Extremely Hot Tempered in relationships.

This creates Only More Shame.

Because we don’t want to be this way.

We feel Stuck.

How To Work Through It?

Start to notice your Habit Reaction.

Do you become very reactive or shut down when you feel criticized?

Notice what you say, how you react, and what happens in your body.

Awareness is the first step.

Create your new response.

When you feel that shame response, pause.

Start to take deep breaths.

Relax your shoulders.

Remind yourself you can listen to what someone is saying and not react.

Stay open.

Re-wire perception.

It’s exhausting to feel Everything is criticism.

Sometimes it can border on paranoia.

Remind yourself that not everyone is coming to hurt you.

Remind yourself that we Grow by taking in other people’s feedback on us.

With Practice and Self Compassion you can condition yourself to Respond in New Ways.

You can Release The Core Belief that you are defective and Start Letting People In.

~ Nicole Lepera