In my recent intuitive reading with a woman in her 30’s, who had a very complicated relationship with her mother for most her life, amongst other things, an intuitive reading has shown her mother was not ready for the motherhood.
Her mum was young and wanted to
enjoy her career, life and travelling with her husband, when she got pregnant.
Her mum was very afraid of responsibilities that come with children, afraid she will be stuck at home, afraid her career, which she loved so much, will end.
‘But how’, young woman pleaded with me, ‘she kept telling me she wanted to be a mum?!
She always said she was ready to be a mum!
Why would she lie to me?!’
The reading has clearly shown her mum was lying to herself as she couldn’t admit the truth.
She felt guilty and selfish for feeling she isn’t yet ready for raising the children.
Something that actually many parents do is to convince themselves they are ready to be parents.
Many stay in that lie for the rest of their life.
Many convince their partner, children and the rest of the world – they are ready – although the real deep truth is they desperately WANT to be ready.
To satisfy the norm, everyone around them, to fit in, to be ‘normal’, when everyone their age around them has children, most parents convince themselves they are ready.
How it practically showed that this mother wasn’t ready for her daughter and that she was actually very resentful of having children, was that she was not able to emotionally connect with her, feel her, see her and her emotional needs.
And with years, that has severely strained their mother-daughter relationship.
There was more disagreements and more arguments, emotional disconnection grew bigger and bigger.
This was the first time this young woman has thought of, has seen and felt her mum from this angle.
Not as her mum, but seeing as an observer a young woman, struggling with the motherhood.
And just being in her mum’s shoes for the first time so deeply, without any attachment, made her finally accept and forgive her mum, instead of judging, blaming and accusing her, which she has done for many years.
Soon after the reading she sent me an update.
Her mum and her, for the first time in her life, had a very deep and meaningful, raw and vulnerable, heart to heart conversation where her mum cried in front of her for the first time as she finally felt seen, heard, felt and understood by her daughter.
Mum became softer, more caring and open and their relationship improved since.
Free Your Shadow. Live Your Truth.