As I often get asked what inner child work is, how it works and what are the benefits, I decided to write about it.
And yep – that sad, scared, shy, boy-like kid on the pic is me……
So he or she echoes our beliefs about ourselves and the world. Also, most of the time, they drive our emotions and unconscious behaviour. At home, at work, at the social gatherings and when we are alone with ourselves.
The inner child concept originates from Jung. It’s a part of our unconscious that represents the child we once were. And it has been widely used in psychotherapy as a powerful tool in helping with emotional healing and transformation.
In order for us to survive in our childhood and to avoid shame, in order for us to belong, get love, connection and everything else we need, we as children hide our traumatic experiences and / or emotions.
E.g. If we grew up with the controlling parent/s, we were taught to believe we were loved only if we were “good”. So we have learned to HIDE our rage, anger, sadness or any other negative emotion which got us in trouble.
And if we were physically or emotionally rejected, abandon or abused, we have mastered hiding our pain and fear so we don’t get hurt, rejected or abandoned again.
So this can get us into emotionally repressed cycles of self-sabotage in the adulthood where we run from one relationship to another “not to get hurt”, seeking parenting only to get more disappointed, rejected and abandon.
And it also creates a safe space to release, validate and accept all our emotions.
Because as adults we can be very hard on ourselves with our own self-judgement and loathing, which isn’t helping us to move on, connecting with our inner child is a perfect way to heal those childhood wounds.
So with taking care of the ‘child within’, we are finally honouring and taking care of our own needs as adults. And we are becoming ‘grown ups’.
As it’s not something that’s ‘done’ to us, but is something that we, as the adult, have some control over.
Absolutely – E.V.E.R.Y.O.N.E!!! 😉
AND ESPECIALLY ANYONE WHO IS EXPERIENCING:
Low self confidence
Avoiding decision making
High sensitivity to criticism or a ‘feedback’
Lack of emotional intelligence
Strong/ rigid independency
Passive aggressive behaviour
Fear of failure
Fear of success
Weight problems and obesity
Anger management issues
Strong recurring ‘negative’ reactions ( triggers )
Fears / phobias
Lack of courage and assertiveness
Being bullied / being a bully
Staying in a victim state
Staying in your head / ignoring the heart
‘Feeling like a fraud who is about to be exposed’
Anyone who has experienced sexual, physical, emotional abuse or neglect
Are you ready to conquer your mountain?